Matchmakers Agree: Avoid These First Date Locations
Figuring out where to go on a first date can be a challenge. You want a place that’s neutral and both of you feel comfortable, but since you’re just getting to know each other that can be tricky. Here are some places to avoid on a first date.
Chipotle – …or any fast casual restaurant. Of course, you want to date someone who likes to chow at Chipotle, but that’s later on in the relationship. Matchmaker Jenny Apple says to skip the fast casual places because it “says to your date that your level of investment in them is basically worth $7.50.”
Netflix and chill – This isn’t a date so much as a booty call – you know it, they know it. Amy Andersen, founder and CEO of Linx Dating says it suggests that you’re “simply lazy, cheap or lack creativity.”
A local bar where you’re a regular – “A dive bar where ‘everybody knows your name’ suggests you’re the type of person who needs to stay in your comfort zone,” warns matchmaker Jacqueline Nichols. “Plus, everyone is going to be in your business because you’re a regular there.”
A family gathering – First dates are for getting to know each other, and that’s hard to do with your Aunt Maggie asking when you two are going to start a family.
A Soulcycle class – Some people might get excited about being into the same fitness class, but Apple points out that most of us want to look and smell our best on a date, not show off the sweaty version.
Your birthday dinner – This is a bad idea because all of your friends will be there wanting to celebrate with you, so “the last thing you want to do is babysit someone you barely know,” explains co-founder of Project Soulmate matchmaking service Jennifer Zucher.
A wedding – “The ‘happily ever after’ subtext here is a lot to handle on a first date,” says matchmaker Francesca Hogi. “And the time commitment of an entire wedding is also asking too much.” Plus, if it doesn’t work out, then everyone has to crop your date out of the pics from the wedding.
Out with a big group of friends – “A night out with your friends puts A LOT of pressure on your date to not only impress you, but your entire social circle,” explains dating coach Samantha Burns.
Disneyland – …or an exorbitant weekend getaway. When you’re meeting someone for the first time, you don’t want to feel trapped if you don’t hit it off. It’s best to keep first dates to about an hour to hour and a half,” says Katie Chen, co-founder of Catch Matchmaking. “Even if it’s great, leave them wanting more.”
Source: Huffington Post